tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post2543816262225679009..comments2023-03-25T05:04:22.774-04:00Comments on Coping with SIDS: Grief Beyond ReligionAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06978106493173201688noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-75514721871564769842012-05-08T03:54:10.133-04:002012-05-08T03:54:10.133-04:00@Jayden's Mommy- I am so sorry about the loss ...@Jayden's Mommy- I am so sorry about the loss of your son. At three months I was honestly just really starting to feel the pain. I don't think the deep pain even sank in until 6 months later. It was like a black hole or a nightmare. <br /><br />@Groves- I feel like there's so much judging when you lose a child and it comes from the oddest of places-sometimes from the very people who should understand where you're coming from. I think a lot of where this comes from is fear. Of what, I don't know. When it comes to other parents, I try to show as much compassion and respect as humanly possible, even if I don't agree with their beliefs. If they want to believe that when their child died he ended up on a unicorn under Lake Michigan* then I'm going to listen to that, smile, and nod. I figure they don't need my judgement-they need my support. <br /><br /><br />*That was a personal fantasy of mine when I was 7. No idea where the Lake Michigan part came from.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06978106493173201688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-59971889970361029202012-05-07T13:27:07.475-04:002012-05-07T13:27:07.475-04:00our baby was also 6 weeks and yes now its when the...our baby was also 6 weeks and yes now its when the pain is the worst its like reality its here and he is not. there is so much pain... it seems like its never going to get better....and we have hopes but its so hard...Jayden's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687674253192563095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-76833779748129232802012-05-07T09:28:04.894-04:002012-05-07T09:28:04.894-04:00Like you, I believe in a higher power and an after...Like you, I believe in a higher power and an afterlife. I also completely agree with this:<br /><br />"Grief hits people of all faiths and beliefs. They deserve to be able to talk about their beliefs and their sadness without getting attacked."<br /><br />What seems strange is that so often people "of faith" will not - willingly! - show mercy and compassion to those who are suffering. Yes - this includes allowing them exactly the freedom you described above.<br /><br />I don't understand attacking people for what they do/don't believe. Befriending them, treating them kindly, listening to them, caring about them - go for it. But why attack them? What possible good can that do...not to mention, why would they ever care to hear an opinion from someone who treats them so badly? <br /><br />I think you are exactly right. I'm glad you shared your thoughts on this.<br /><br />xo Cathy in MissouriGroveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867095709948739457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-74251899400546702212012-05-07T07:21:53.951-04:002012-05-07T07:21:53.951-04:00Our baby was also six weeks; and yes its exactly t...Our baby was also six weeks; and yes its exactly three months and people says we have to continue and focus and keep going but the pain that we have today is worse than ever. Toby was handsome as was my Jayden. Thank you for sharing your story; i feel someone understands.Jayden's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687674253192563095noreply@blogger.com