tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post5998431901326108597..comments2023-03-25T05:04:22.774-04:00Comments on Coping with SIDS: Our Children's GuiltAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06978106493173201688noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-87290763250951698882012-05-09T12:28:43.662-04:002012-05-09T12:28:43.662-04:00Found your blog on Tesha's link-up.
I also lo...Found your blog on Tesha's link-up.<br /><br />I also lost my son in Aug 2010 to SIDS. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. <br /><br />Just wanted to say hi.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16070112399406592271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-79465021311171487412012-05-09T04:04:52.205-04:002012-05-09T04:04:52.205-04:00I do believe that having surviving children can ma...I do believe that having surviving children can make a huge difference in the way we grieve. In some ways, for me, it was better to have a living child because it forced me to keep on keeping on. We HAD to get out of bed, had to keep working, had to celebrate all the holidays in our usual style, had to go to birthday parties, had to be around other children, and had to do a lot of things that we might have otherwise avoided if we hadn't had another child still living. In some ways, that was better for us because if we'd lost our only child then we would have lost most of our motivation to do anything. <br /><br />On the other hand, it made the grieving a lot harder in other ways because there were things we had to face up to before we were ready. Plus, we couldn't have days where we just checked out and stayed in bed. We wanted to, but we couldn't. <br /><br />It is a struggle for sure. I have a hard time watching them sleep, too. My son has sleep apnea and my daughter has seizures. Between the two, it's kind of a nightmare at bedtime.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06978106493173201688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-83738752219690130482012-05-08T23:47:47.699-04:002012-05-08T23:47:47.699-04:00I feel the same way sometimes with our oldest Jayd...I feel the same way sometimes with our oldest Jayda she is 3. She brings Jayden up quite often; she asks me many times" where is? Lets just get him back! And she grabs my hand". We havent mentioned the word die to her. I hate the word it just hurts me. I also have a extremely hard time watching them sleep so soundly. Anyway I can go on. But its a horrible struggle. They keep us going but they also are a constant reminder of our little men.Jayden's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687674253192563095noreply@blogger.com