tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post6550479804454892621..comments2023-03-25T05:04:22.774-04:00Comments on Coping with SIDS: New Book, New ThoughtsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06978106493173201688noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-53627923607872174192012-11-09T06:41:11.713-05:002012-11-09T06:41:11.713-05:00I always think it's funny that people seem to ...I always think it's funny that people seem to be such experts on our uterus (uteri?) after we lose a child. It's like, suddenly all of these people know exactly what's best for us and what we should be doing. We had that a lot-some of it spoken to us, some of it spoken about behind our backs. I am glad we didn't listen. There is never a "good" time to have a baby. Like you said, Kira, we needed that newness. We needed something else to look forward to. Without Iris' impending birth, it was just a long, dark, empty nothing. The subsequent pregnancy isn't a replacement for the child you lost, but I think it can be a replacement for some of the worst of the grief. You're kind of exchanging some of that awful nothingness and despair with hope and there's nothing wrong with that. I think it's healing. <br /><br />Abby, whole days at a time is great! I'm not going soft or anything. I'm still mad as hell and want to wring people around the neck. I was depressed as all get out during Iris' pregnancy. She's the happiest kid I've ever seen. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06978106493173201688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-53828879587864705512012-11-09T00:36:38.456-05:002012-11-09T00:36:38.456-05:00Rebecca as soon as its available I'm anxious t...Rebecca as soon as its available I'm anxious to read it. And yes its true there are many people that say and do stupid things but please do know that your blog has help people like me. A mom that was so new to this road and that felt like I was going crazy until I read your post and realize many of what I felt was okay. I wish I would write more, but I just can not bring myself to it. And even this post there are so many people that do not know what happen with Jayden and they criticize us for getting pregnant so soon but it was the best decision we could have made. We need hope, we need newness and can't wait to see our baby Kyle so soon. Love, Kira Jayden's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687674253192563095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7716266031006082752.post-74100678919680876012012-11-08T17:41:09.812-05:002012-11-08T17:41:09.812-05:00I found it so strange that people were so opiniona...I found it so strange that people were so opinionated about when I should get pregnant (I really wanted to underline and bold "I" but can't in the comments field). Even a psychiatrist advised me not to get pregnant (of course, that advice came when I was about 3 weeks pregnant with Mo and didn't know it). Mo is just about the very best thing that we could have done for ourselves AND he is a happy, loved and beautiful boy. I also got a lot of unsolicited words about how my sadness during pregnancy would affect him - that I would surely get a colicky baby (which I didn't!) Anyway, I am so glad for you that you are in this new phase. I have been feeling in a better place lately myself. Just as sad, but able to see outside of the loss tunnel for whole days at a time. XOXO- AbbyAbby Levisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15748394086960661826noreply@blogger.com