I am excited about this book for several reasons. For one thing, I really tried to make it as comprehensive as possible. From getting the news to dealing with a subsequent pregnancy and making burial plans I tried to include a little bit of everything. I included my own personal experiences but I also interviewed a lot of my infant loss friends and got their stories as well. You'll find about a dozen firsthand experiences from mothers who lost infants from SIDS, accidents, and illnesses. Some of their experiences were vastly different than mine but there was always something relatable about their stories.
Before it was published I sent a few friends copies of the book and had them read it to get their honest opinions about it. That made me nervous as hell. It was also really emotional. For some of us it was hard to remember how we felt in those early months, or even the first year, so we had to consult our diaries, journals, and blogs. That triggered a lot of our old feelings and there was a period of time that was really hard on all of us, I think. I know that as I was writing this I sometimes found myself feeling sad and depressed in a way that I haven't felt in a year or more. I felt like I wasn't just reliving my own child's death, but my friends' deaths as well.
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